My husband got home and I told him, “We need to talk…” what happened next, changed our lives FOREVER!!!

My husband got home and I told him, “We need to talk…” what happened next, changed our lives FOREVER!!!

So today, Monday, the 30^th of May 2016 will be the mark of a one month count down. Count down to what you may ask? Well, for you to know the whole truth and nothing but the truth, I need to start at the very beginning.

Somewhere by the end of 2015, me and my husband started talking and thinking about the next step, the next move, the next challenge (as one does after a few years in the same place). We were thinking about traveling, “Ok where to?”, “What will it cost?”, “Do we have the budget, and if not what do we need to budget for?” When all the answers to the questions did not go as I hoped, my answer was (as one does??!!) “No, this is way too difficult, I think we should move abroad” – Me, in a joking voice.

As you all know by now my personality type likes to debate and entice reaction whether I agree or not. So one day when I was busy invigilating at a final yearend exam. I started thinking this whole moving thing through. Getting somewhat excited, I realised we have way too much stuff and responsibility in South Africa. We can’t just pack up and leave? “Let’s move but to some place in South Africa.” 

Revolutionary I thought. We keep all our responsibilities intact, but we still change the scenery a bit.

So now we are thinking about all these new ideas, unfortunately it stays just that; ideas, dreams, castles in the sky. A few months went by. My best friend moved to Cape Town and Christmas came around. We were in the Western Cape for the holidays and enjoying every moment. As we handed out presents on the eve of Christmas we had to answer a question before we could open our present (my Mom’s way of getting down to all our deepest thoughts. One question that stuck with me was, “What do you think 2016 will hold for you?” Oblivious to what would really happen in 2016, I answered that I hoped for a lot of adventure as I wanted to travel and see the world with my husband. I wanted a change of scenery. We had a very nice evening with a lot of tight hugs and meaningful family banter.

The holidays went by far too quickly and we went back to work early in January.  A few weeks went by and everything eased back to normal. Normal, Ugghhhh!!

UNTIL one day January my husband got home and I told him, “WE NEED TO TALK…”

He was sitting on the bed innocent and unaware of what was about to come next. I sat him down and told him; by the end of June/July I want to be in another country. I don’t know how, I don’t know if it is even possible but I want to be in another country…

His absolute calmness just astonished me. He was relaxed, (although I am sure that at some point in time, no matter if it was only for a split second, he must have thought, “what have I gotten myself into?”, “What the hell are you thinking woman?”), he was composed. His only words were; “Cool, sounds like a plan”. And in that moment I knew, hell whether this thing works out or not, I have the best husband in the world!

So, although I was very serious about everything, I don’t think I realised the implications of my words. I didn’t think it was actually possible. I must have not realised that my husband’s vows to try and give me everything I need for the rest of his life, were really at the core of his ambitions.

I am a very big believer in the “Law of attraction”, “Thoughts become things”, and so on. I have seen it, and proved it in my own life, time and time again. Go read up about it, and read the book “The Secret”. But did I realise what I was doing in that moment?

What I didn’t realise was, that by me saying those words out loud, by making that commitment, by believing that it will happen even though I had nothing to back it, was my way of attracting the things I wanted.

If you want to know more about “the law of attractions” and how it has made a difference in my life, leave a comment and I will write a whole article about it, enough with the psychological of it all.

So by the end of January my husband sent his CV in for a position in Dubai and went for the interview. A bit scared that it won’t happen I decided to only tell people once he was invited for the 3^rd interview, which happened in March. Looooong story short.

It has been a crazy 3 months with a lot of confusion, tears, laughter, sadness but most of all excitement. Today all of that was worth it. Today, the 30^th of May 2015 marks the 30 day count down, to our big move to Dubai.

Love,

P.S Watch this space for all the latest information, moving tips, things to do, what not to do, and how to land that job oversees. I am not an expert but maybe I can help.

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10 Easy tips (you can do TODAY) that could change someone’s world

Hi all,

WARNING! 

Getting all deep and full of feelings and stuff, SO brace yourself! 

Still not listening, fine, but I warned you. 

Maybe it is the holidays that's approaching. But with 2016 only 24 days away, you start to rethink 2015.  Have you done the things you really loved this year? Do the people around you know you love them? What are the things that really matter? What are the most important things the people around you can do? It doesn’t matter how big or small; how significant to you or insignificant to others.

(With all these questions this blog can actually be a 5 part squeal.) 

I made cookies, as guest favours, for my Aunt’s surprise birthday party the previous weekend. This led me to think about all the things we do for other people. The effort and time we put in, whether it is a gift or a party.

One of my colleagues asked me the other day; “Do you ever wonder if other people will do the same for you? The effort and time that we put in to make things special, when it is time to return the favour, do you think they will do the same for us?”

Chances are that they won’t and you would end up hurt, angry and even frustrated with the people around you as they would not always do the same for you as you do for them. You start to plot some form of revenge as you are disappointed in their efforts and the time they invested.

Now, the life lesson I have learnt; “Do to others what you would like them to do to you.”(Without expecting them to live by the same rules) If you follow the above quote and you really take it to heart, then whether or not the favour is returned, is irrelevant.

It means that you are doing it with the right mind-set, not for what you can get out, but what you put in, and what it would mean to them. Do we have any other choice? My Mamma, Julie (a very wise woman, you will get to know her as my posts increase), use to spot the situation where I was mad or frustrated, and she would say in a very irritated tone “there are more than enough mean people in the world, you do not need to be one of them, do the things that make you feel good, and not because you wish to get something back”. (This is not easy, and I still remind myself of this when I am in a similar situation) 

Sometimes you need to be the bigger person as you never know what battle the person next to is fighting. (Another Julie quote) Something small or insignificant to you could mean the world to someone else.

10 Easy tips (you can do TODAY) that could change someone’s world

• If you see someones mood is down, tell them a joke, if they don’t laugh, walk away and tell them that you will come back with a new and improved version. Make sure to check up on them later, even if it is just a text.
• Thank people who serve you—waiter, receptionist, cleaner, security guard
• Pay for someone’s groceries in your cue, if you don’t have a lot of money, stand in the short cue in the front of the shop (e.g. Max 5 items row), or pick someone that you can see struggles by counting all their coins.
• Call and invite an old friend to get drinks, take a small gift with, even if it’s only a Christmas chocolate.

• Stop by the hospital to visit a friend, if you can’t stop by, make an effort to stop at their home afterwards with something, or at the very least send a message a few days later finding out how they are doing.
• Plan a meeting, surprising everyone with a tea party (remember the cake)
• Pay the toll for the person behind you.
• Call a friend going through a difficult period to show your support, maybe arrange a “single at last” party, or buy a “happy divorce" cake, with proper chick flicks. (only if it is that kind of “difficult situation”, otherwise it might just be awkward)
• Next time you are at the shops, buy something (no matter how small) for the special person in your life, or write a letter or note to them. 
• Invite a friend for dinner, try to make their favourite food. Remember to talk less and listen more. 

BONUS: If you receive good service from someone, make sure to go to their manager and pass on the compliment. People are easy to complain but very slow to compliment.

Make time for the small things in life, and make sure to think about the people around you and what they might me going through. Do something for your sweetheart or stranger, maybe they pass it on to the next stranger.

That’s it for another blog post., hope you are making the most of what is left of 2015.

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